A while back, I wrote a blog called “Avoiding Beneficiary Horror Stories.” At that time I discussed many potential problems that may arise when you don’t review your forms periodically to ensure they’re accurate. Since then, I have come across a few other scenarios I wanted to share so you can avoid these unfortunate blunders.
Just like we were all born into this life, we will also pass away from this life. Although not much fun to think about, it will happen sooner or later. Since we have no idea when that may be, it’s always best to be prepared. One way to do that is to make sure you have current beneficiary designations for all of your financial accounts from retirement funds to checking and savings accounts.
Tips for beneficiary forms:
1. Never name a minor as a beneficiary:
Under the law, minors are not allowed to inherit money or assets directly. In many states the age of majority is 18 but check the law where you live to find out for sure.
Further, unless a guardian has been appointed, funds cannot be distributed to minors. Since the guardian will take control over the assets, it should be someone you trust with the minor’s best intentions at heart.
Since minors typically inherit the assets once they become legal adults, ask yourself if it’s best for this child to inherit a large sum of money at such a tender age. While some young adults will do just fine, others will have one big party until all the money’s gone. If you have any doubts, consider other options.
2. Never name a beneficiary that receives government assistance:
Rules for receiving government help are pretty restrictive about how many assets or cash a recipient can own and still qualify for help. The last thing you want to do is inadvertently pass on an inheritance that would cause someone to lose their government benefits.
If you have a family member with special needs, it’s often better to set up a special needs trust that can help financially over the beneficiary’s lifetime without jeopardizing their eligibility for government assistance. Speak to an estate planning attorney for more information on this topic.
3. Beneficiary designations trump a will or trust:
Many people mistakenly believe their will or trust will direct how assets should be distributed or utilized when they die. Although that may be generally true, if your beneficiary designation conflicts with your will or trust, the beneficiary form will control. Countless court cases have been fought over this very argument and typically the beneficiary designation comes out on top.
4. Never name just 1 beneficiary:
Some folks name just 1 beneficiary with the belief they will share the spoils evenly with all the other heirs. But legally the sole beneficiary has no obligation to do so and could easily keep all the money for him or herself. Rather than assuming your beneficiary will do the “right thing,” you should make your intentions clear up front.
5. Always name a back-up beneficiary:
It’s always best to name a contingent beneficiary in case something happens to your original beneficiary. Life happens and sometimes so quickly, we don’t have time to catch up.
You can also name multiple beneficiaries by designating a percentage of how much each should receive upon your death. Just make sure your numbers add up to 100%.
6. Never put your beneficiary designation forms on auto-pilot:
The last thing any of us wants to do is disinherit a loved one because we didn’t review our beneficiary designations following a major life event. Review your beneficiary designations if you’ve had any of the following changes to your family’s circumstances:
- A change in your marital status
- A birth of a child or grandchild
- A death in the family
- New job or promotion
- Problems with your health
Although there are many laws and other considerations to think about with your estate plan, you can keep absolute control over any funds you want to go directly to specific heirs by using beneficiary designations. Just be sure to review them occasionally to make sure they are up to date and will convey your legacy to loved ones as you intended.
Have questions? Give us a call at 888.577.2227 or visit our website at www.ConquerYourDebt.org for more information. There is never a better time to Take Charge of your Life Again.
Author Barbara Miller is a Financial Counselor at LSS Financial Counseling.
August is here and school is right around the corner. As a new college student, you may be filled with a mix of emotions about the adventure you will soon begin. Meeting new friends, maybe moving someplace far from home, and starting your adult life can be exciting and even a little scary at times.
Settling in to a routine that demands balancing classes, studying, working part-time and having some fun will not only be a challenge, but will also take some time. While in college, don’t put your student loans on auto-pilot or you just may have a painful shock (or loan balance) when it all ends a few short years down the road.
Tips to follow:
1. Have a conversation with your parents to determine if they will be able to assist the financing of your higher education. Find out how much help, if any, you can expect each year you attend college.
2. While it’s always best to do so before borrowing any student loans, familiarize yourself with the types of loans available, the interest rates for each, and exactly how they work. A useful website sponsored by the Department of Education provides this information and can be found at www.FinancialAidToolkit.ed.gov . Although this website was designed specifically for people who advise students and families on preparing for college, there is no reason you too can’t go directly to the loan source.
And while it would be nice, do not rely on the information given to you by the financial aid office at your chosen college. Unfortunately, many of these staff are woefully undertrained and do not understand all the nuances about student loans themselves.
3. Do not borrow private student loans if at all possible. I am not maligning private student loan lenders in any way. The simple fact is private loans offer very few options when repayment begins. Typically, your payment is expected when due or you may have defaulted on your loans. Compare this to federal student loans which offer many repayment options depending on your financial situation. Deferments and forbearances that offer temporary relief may also be available for those not yet working or earning little income.
4. Track the amount of loan money you borrow to keep it under control. As a student loan counselor, I often hear borrowers say they had no idea they borrowed so much money until the loans came due. Many parents are in the same boat. You can easily remedy this by looking into alternate funding options, attending a school that is affordable for your budget, and working part-time to cover some living costs.
5. Try not to live on student loan money or your loan balances will skyrocket. Student loans are meant for tuition, books, and fees. Of course no one will stop you if you use the loan proceeds for other expenses, but you will owe far more debt than necessary if you don’t work. Consider living with roommates to share living costs and get out of the dorm as soon as you can. Although you may enjoy the hustle and bustle of dorm life, it won’t be much fun when your inflated loan payments come due.
6. Maximum loan balances should be capped at the first year salary you expect to earn in the career or industry you have chosen. Yes that’s right. If you expect your first job to pay you $30,000 in the first year, do NOT borrow more than that!
Why you may ask? First, there are no guarantees you will find a job right after college graduation. And if you do, it may be in another industry or at a lower salary than you expect. Do your homework up front so you know what average salaries should be, especially for recent graduates. And remember, the more student loan debt you borrow, the less likely you will qualify for other loans such as a mortgage or auto loan when you need it.
Student loans are a helpful tool to finance your higher education. However, if you ignore how much you borrow or rely solely on loan money, your graduation may be a gateway to a lifelong struggle to repay those loans.
LSS Financial Counseling has counselors who specialize in Student Loan Counseling. We can help you understand your rights and your options. Call us at 888.577.2227 or visit our website at www.ConquerYourDebt.org to learn more.
Understand your student loan options–for free with LSS.
- Explore available repayment options and potential solutions
- Determine your eligibility for federal repayment options
- Develop a budget to cover monthly expenses
- Assistance contracting private lenders to determine possible repayment solutions
- Identify ways to avoid defaulting and suffering the related consequences
Author Barbara Miller is a Financial Counselor at LSS Financial Counseling.
Moving can be an exciting adventure, especially if you’re heading to your dream home! But it can also be unduly stressful with so many details screaming for attention, not to mention packing up everything you own only to unpack at your final destination. My best advice is to think ahead, pay attention to the small stuff, and give yourself plenty of time. In all honesty, I have not moved in 13 years. But like everything else, things have changed greatly in that time so there is guidance available to make your move go more smoothly.
Start with a planning checklist:
The last time I moved, it was a major operation. This wasn’t just a move across town to a better neighborhood. This was a move across the state with everything we owned so we used a major moving company. Although it did not exist at that time, these days many moving companies offer moving checklists to help you get a handle on what you need to do, and when you need to do it. Such checklists provide a timeline with things you should be thinking about 8 weeks, 4 weeks, and 2 weeks before the big day. By searching online for “moving checklist,” you can find plenty of useful information.
Don’t move too much:
We all collect stuff regardless of whether or not we want to. What I mean by “don’t move too much” is only take what you really need and intend to use. Don’t pack up everything and move it just to purge things when you get there. It makes far more sense to go through your belongings first, donate usable items, and throw or recycle the rest. But do your purging now! My general rule is if an item has sat in the closet for at least a year, I really don’t need it.
Make sure to return library books and movie rentals before they get lost in the shuffle. The same goes for anything similar like items you’ve borrowed from your neighbors. And don’t forget to reclaim anything you lent out.
If you have any items being repaired or serviced (like dry cleaning), retrieve them before the move so you aren’t left wondering “what happened to my favorite little black dress.”
Plan for your pets and plants:
I also seem to collect houseplants and pets. The last time I moved my ficus tree, it was enough of a challenge. Thirteen years later, it is 6 feet tall and nearly as wide.
Keep in mind that most moving companies cannot take your pets or plants along for the ride. Be sure to make appropriate arrangements for them to minimize the stress of a move. Consider boarding your animals or leaving them with a trusted friend to prevent your pets from becoming too confused or anxious. If you take them along, please put your pets someplace safe and secure while all the physical moving takes place and the doors are wide open. Getting lost in unfamiliar territory is not how you want to introduce your pets to their new home.
Don’t forget the little things:
There are many other details that need attention when you make a move. Staying current on bills and informing creditors and utility providers of your updated information is essential to keep life flowing smoothly.
1. Change your address with the post office
First things first. Once you know your new address, contact the post office to update your mailing information. Having mail come to the right place at the right time is key to staying on top of your new life.
Having pre-printed labels on hand makes the process easier to change your address and send off mail. Keep a few in your handbag or wallet to access easily when you need it. It can take some time to remember a new address on demand.
3. Notify your creditors and subscriptions
Notify all creditors (credit card companies and loan servicers) and banks where you keep your money to update your personal information. Keeping this information current allows for timely notifications and bill-paying. Do the same with your magazine and newspaper subscriptions so they find their new home too. If necessary, cancel any services or subscriptions you won’t be using once you move.
4. Open new bank accounts
If you are moving to a new city, you may want to open new bank accounts before you move so you can access your money when you need it. As you know, many businesses no longer accept checks or will not accept those from “out-of-towners.”
At moving time, I always feel charged up but also a touch of dread at pulling it all together on time. But with advance preparation and help from the whole family, your next move may be just a walk in the park!
Author Barbara Miller is a Financial Counselor at LSS Financial Counseling. Visit www.ConquerYourDebt.org to learn more about what we do. Get Started. Take Charge of Your Life Again.
A growing number of adult children are turning to the Bank of Mom and Dad and Grandparents. Many families have the impulse to be generous as they watch their young-adult children struggle with a tough job market and challenging economy, so they lend their children money to help pay for basics like rent, debts owed, transportation … or, let adult children move back home. Parent’s want their children to be successful and ultimately not struggle.
This poses a huge dilemma for a parent or grandparent. You want to help your children succeed but in doing so you can jeopardize your own retirement, and their own autonomy. It’s important to ask yourself two basic questions.
Ask yourself these two questions:
- How much if any can you really afford to give your adult child?
- What steps is your adult child taking so they won’t always need financial help?
Sometimes it is important to let our loved ones find their way into hard choices that will let them grow confident in themselves. If your adult children could benefit from creating a budget and a plan, send them to a nonprofit financial counselor. LSS Financial Counseling offers free budget and debt counseling, with 8 offices in MN. Call LSS at 888-577-2227 or visit our website at www.ConquerYourDebt.org.
Portrait of a student girl studying at libraryOne of my blog teammates recently wrote a post called “Should I Co-Sign For a Loan?” I was very impressed and wanted to piggyback on his insights by further discussing the very real and sometimes bizarre dangers of co-signing private student loans.
Private student loans are fraught with perils and pitfalls that many borrowers and co-signers alike are unaware of until it’s too late. Although many of these dangers are spelled out in the loan contract, either people don’t read the full document, don’t understand all the provisions, or may think “this will never happen to me.” I won’t go so far as to say everything is clearly spelled out because I have my doubts. But my first recommendation: always read the full contract and ask questions to clarify any confusion you may have so you understand what you’re getting into.
Real Life Examples:
I recently spoke with a parent who co-signed a private student loan for her son with a large national bank. It turns out she had also done her banking at this financial institution for many years and had always been happy with their service. Then her son stopped making the loan payments.
My client began receiving letters about the defaulted student loan that she co-signed. She wrote back informing the bank of her son’s mailing address and phone number so he could be contacted directly. But that wasn’t good enough for the bank.
Without warning, it cleared out her checking account of at least $1000 toward the loan balance. When she discovered this “offset,” she contacted the bank and was told that when she signed the paperwork for her bank accounts years earlier, it was clearly stated that balances owed to the bank could be taken from a borrower’s account without notice. You should all know this is a very common industry practice but no one seems to believe it until it happens to them!
When she asked if the bank had tried contacting her son about the loan, she was told that information was confidential and could not be disclosed. Not only was my client financially inconvenienced but was understandably frustrated with how this collection process was playing out.
She has since changed banks but still runs the risk of being sued over the debt and having her wages garnished if either she or her son do not make regular payments on this private student loan.
This instance is a bit extreme but is absolutely true. Believe me when I say I don’t have nearly enough imagination to make this up. It clearly shows just how quickly things can go wrong for the primary borrower if something happens to the student loan co-signer.
A young man called LSS one day with a question about his private student loan. I had some free time so I called him right back. It turns out he had borrowed a private student loan from a national bank but was current on his payments and had always made them on time.
The problem was his co-signer had passed away recently so according to the loan contract, the balance (which was several thousand dollars) was immediately due in full.
Huh, you might be asking? The only reason I wasn’t completely taken aback by this situation is that a few weeks earlier, our student loan team was advised about the potential for this very thing to happen. The caller acknowledged that he had seen this clause in the loan contract, but that surely didn’t change the fact that he was now facing a huge financial burden – a burden that was entirely beyond his control.
Fortunately for him, the co-signer’s estate paid off the defaulted student loan and would allow him to continue making affordable payments to the estate until paid in full. But others encountering this situation may not be so fortunate!
Food For Thought:
If you are faced with co-signing private student loans for your child, you may want to look at some other less potentially expensive alternatives. Even better, answer some basic questions to figure out if this is really a viable option.
- Student-Loan-Calculator…Ask yourself if you can afford to make the loan payments after college if your child can’t.
- Ask yourself (and your child) if he or she is ready to pursue higher education at this point. It can be a real waste of time and money when kids go to school with no real direction or idea what they hope to get out of a college degree. Or, if your child is not mature enough to take their studies seriously and would prefer to party, you may want to postpone college indefinitely until it’s a realistic goal for the student.
- Is your child better suited to learning a skilled trade with hands-on training rather than slaving over textbooks for four years? Many trades pay very good wages and may lead to the potential to start one’s own business in the future. A college degree is not for everyone!
- Has your child looked into the potential job market for his or her desired career? Knowing that good jobs are available can be a real motivator in finishing a college degree on time. It can also lead to internships and opportunities to shadow those in the business to make sure this is the right choice for one’s future.
- Is it a better idea to have your child work awhile to save some money for school rather than relying solely on student loans to fund an education?
- Has your child looked into grants and scholarships to help pay for college? These are steps that should be taken early in the process.
- What will the loan be used for? Funding tuition, books, and other school related costs is certainly appropriate for student loans. However, living on loan money is a serious mistake because it leads to over-borrowing and huge loan balances upon graduation. It’s also important for kids to work during college to be able to better structure their time, contribute to their own survival, and can be more impressive to potential employers.
Sometimes co-signing private student loans is well worth the risk. But doing so is not for every parent (or other family members). So if you plan to sign just be sure you’re prepared for the worst case scenario! Have questions? We specialize in Student Loan Counseling. Give us a call at 888.577.2227 and we can help!
Author Barbara Miller is a Certified Financial Counselor at LSS Financial Counseling specializing in Bankruptcy Education and Student Loan Counseling.
Theses days, 401K retirement plans are typically the cornerstone of every investor’s retirement plan. Gone are the days of big company pension plans, and for many of us, big company matches to an employee’s retirement funds. And relying on Social Security benefits alone will surely be a problem since those benefits are meant to supplement your other retirement savings. So, avoiding big mistakes that can cost you retirement money in the future is crucial to making the most of your 401K. (Just so you know, when I talk about 401K plans, the same principles apply to non-profit retirement plans known as 403Bs).
The best advice I can give is to find a certified financial planner (CFP) that you trust for insights and advice. Your work 401K plan should offer help from its’ own CFP so you may want to start there first.
Another resource is http://www.letsmakeaplan.org which is sponsored by the CFP Board. The Board’s’ role is to act “in the public interest by fostering professional standards in personal financial planning through its setting and enforcement of the education, examination, experience, ethics and other requirements for CFP certification.”
I have had a private CFP that I trust implicitly since 2008 and working for a non-profit, I don’t have a huge portfolio. But his help has been invaluable by putting things in perspective for me when the stock market looks a little shaky, or by devising investment strategies that I can embrace over the long term.
Mistake #1: Using investment strategies with premature target dates
We may forget that we are not only investing up to our retirement but also throughout our retirement. This means the closer that retirement gets, we often want to become more conservative across the board rather than phasing out higher risk stocks. Remember that many of us will live at least 20 more years after we retire so using your retirement date as the deadline to divest of your stock investments may harm your long term strategy.
Without additional growth to your retirement funds, there may not be enough money to see you through the long haul. This is where a certified financial planner can help you decide the best strategy that may include ongoing investment in stocks if you can stomach the risk.
Mistake #2: Leaving 401k funds with a former employer
When you leave a job, you always have the option of rolling your 401K plan into an IRA. One reason you may want to do so is 401Ks always have administrative costs and with some plans, these are overly expensive. Over time, these costs can add up reducing the overall return on your investments.
In addition, many 401K plans offer limited options in each asset category which also limits your ability to properly diversify. When your investment funds are more diversified, you can spread the risk while maximizing gains.
Mistake #3: Playing amateur stock broker
It is so important to remember that retirement investing is intended to be long term, and there are only certain factors we can control. Those who have panicked and pulled their money out of a sagging stock market often lose big time because contrary to what you may think, you cannot time the market.
Cashing out of the stock market when values plummet means you may lose potential gains when the market improves again. In addition, buying stocks when prices are high means you will pay more for less. The better approach is to buy low, sell high. This gives you the best of both worlds, and a certified financial planner can help you bridge the gap between the two.
Mistake #4: Failing to rebalance your portfolio
The closer you are to retirement, the more important it is to rebalance your portfolio every year or two. In the long run, stocks generally outperform bonds. But if you invest too heavily in stocks because the market is booming, and the market tanks just before you want to start withdrawing money, you might see your funds collapse.
Another reason to rebalance periodically is that big gains in stocks are typically re-invested right back in the same stock funds. A better approach may be to take some of those gains and move them into more conservative assets when retirement is near.
Summing it up
In conclusion, you too can avoid these common mistakes by being realistic about what you can control with your investments. Those items include asset allocation, fund diversification, and selecting funds with lower administrative costs.
If you’re closer to retirement and want to be more conservative with your money, your advisor can tell you how and whether or not this is a smart move. In the end, we all make our own decisions but sometimes we need a little help to make the best ones we can!
Learn more about LSS by visiting www.ConquerYourDebt.org. Author Barbara Miller is a Financial Counselor at LSS Financial Counseling and specializes in Bankruptcy Education and Student Loan Counseling.
A lot of people want to help out someone in their lives. They see someone they care about struggling financially and want to lend a helping hand. Compassion is an admirable quality, but when you co-sign for a loan, you’re putting your financial well being at risk. Even if it’s your son, daughter, girlfriend, boyfriend, or cousin; more often than not, it’s a bad idea to co-sign for a loan.
“But what’s the worst that could happen?”
The answer: A lot of things.
When you co sign for a loan you’re telling the lender that if this person doesn’t pay, then you’ll make sure the loan gets paid. More often than not it’s the co signer that’s left holding the bag. Two common loans that people co-sign for these days are auto loans and student loans, so let’s look at a few examples of what can go wrong when you co-sign for either of these.
Many of the clients I counsel have either co signed for an auto loan, or if the other individual’s credit is completely terrible, they take out the loan themselves so the interest is much lower. In both cases this is not a great idea and I’ll use one of my client’s stories as an example.
Client #1 comes in and is complaining about her son not paying the auto loan she took out for him. He was paying for several months, but has recently stopped paying the bill. She cannot afford to pay for all of her bills and the added auto loan that she’s now responsible for. She felt bad for him when she took out the loan and he promised that he would never miss a payment. Six months later her credit and their relationship are being slowly destroyed.
In many cases parent’s co-sign for student loans and everything work out just fine. The same risks are their when you co-sign for your children, but the parents have already considered the fact that they will probably be helping pay back the loan. One thing people should never do is co-sign for a loan anyone that is not their own child. It may seem like common sense, but a lot of people get guilted into co-signing for a loan or they trust the other person will pay the loan themselves. It doesn’t matter how much you trust the other person, the implications of taking on another person’s student loans are huge, and absolutely not worth it. Case in point; my next client example:
Client #2 had a great relationship with her son’s fiancé. The son had been dating her for years and she seemed like are very trustworthy person. She needed money for school and could not get enough in federal loans so she needed to take out a private student loan. Her parents were not in the picture, so the son and his fiancé asked client #2 to co-sign for the loan at the bank. At first client #2 was reluctant, but she was trusted the fiancé and she wanted to make her son happy so she helped them with the loan. A little while later the son’s relationship fell apart and the fiancé stopped paying on the loan. Client #2 was now stuck with $20,000 in private student loans that were verging on default. Her credit was completely destroyed and she went to the bank to see if she could be taken off of the loan. The bank would not let her be removed from the loan unless the ex-fiancé was to sign off on it, and the chance of that happening was slim to none. So now the mother is stuck with a loan you can’t even get rid of in bankruptcy. She will be stuck paying that bill for many years or risk collections, destroyed credit, and garnishment.
In the end it will be up to you whether you choose to tempt fate and co-sign for a loan, but before you do remember the stories of these two clients. So, the short answer to the question, “should I co-sign for a loan?” is no. You need to protect your financial situation first and foremost.
Are you in a situation where you co-signed for a loan and your credit might be in trouble? Give us a call at 888.577.2227 or visit our website at www.ConquerYourDebt.org to set up an appointment with a financial counselor. Appointments are free and confidential. Talking with an expert is a great start to when trying to take control of a situation.
Author Landon McKay is Financial Counselor at LSS Financial Counseling.
So you have credit card debt. Or medical debt or even student loan debt. Or a combination! It could be a lot or a little. Maybe you are successfully making payments but the balances aren’t going down. Or it’s to the point where you are afraid to answer the phone and get the mail. Wherever you are a nonprofit credit counseling agency like LSS can help. The key is that you’ve realized it’s time to make a change.
Let’s look at 5 ways you can CONQUER YOUR DEBT.
Debt Management Plan (DMP)
Find peace of mind with an affordable, consolidated monthly DMP deposit and a strategic plan for becoming debt free in five years or less. Yes, you read that write. You can be debt free in less than 5 years. And you will repay your debt in full. Interest rate reductions, re-aging of accounts, and stopping late or over limit fees may be part of your plan. LSS is a licensed credit counseling agency with a skilled and experienced team to assist you in conquering your debt.
Self-Administered Payment Plan
First, create a budget based on take-home income minus basic living expenses. Then, funds remaining are divided up for payments to creditors. Focus on getting/keeping credit card accounts current & under the credit limits then continue to send minimum payments before due date & increase payments any month affordable.
Internal Hardship Plan
When normal minimum payments are not affordable, consider contacting the creditor(s) for lower payments. This is generally a short term option. Each company has its own policy, and some may not offer this plan at all. Ask for the agreement in writing.
A new loan to pay existing debt is obtained. The lender may require some type of collateral. Make sure you understand loan terms including the monthly payment, interest rate, fees, and payoff time. It is extremely important to look into other options of debt repayment before you use any assets to secure the loan or involve co-signers.
A creditor may accept less than the full balance owed as payment in full. Settlement terms can range from 20% to 80% off the balance. Make sure all settlement offers are in writing. Settlements can negatively affect your credit report. Ask a tax advisor whether or not the unpaid portion of the settlement is considered taxable. Settlements can be arranged by the consumer for free. There is no need to pay fees to hire a debt settlement company. Be wary of debt settlement negotiation companies and their practices.
Think about what a debt free future would mean to you. Maybe it’s less worry. Maybe it’s retirement! We are here to help. Give us a call at 888.577.2227 or visit our website at www.ConquerYourDebt.org.
You’ve probably heard horror stories about folks who’ve lent money to friends or family members and got burned for their generosity. While this shouldn’t stop you from helping your loved ones, below are a few tips that may prevent anger and resentment should your arrangement fall apart. If you’re going to hand over money to someone, it’s best to be prepared for whatever the outcome may be.
Talk to yourself first
Take some time to think about whether or not you expect to be repaid. This is the number one way to avoid misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and damaged relationships!
- Can I afford this? If you don’t expect to see the money again and really can’t afford to gift the money, then the best answer is “no.” Another solution may be to gift a portion of the money requested if the borrower can find the rest elsewhere.
On the other hand, if you can afford to give the money but still don’t expect to be repaid, then make it an outright gift (and bless you for your charitable nature!)
- How much can I afford to lend? Often, people lend money regardless of whether or not it fits their own finances. A word of caution – don’t let your loved ones financial problems become yours too.
Regardless of how careful you may be with this transaction, you may never see this money again. Therefore, don’t lend out part of your kids’ college fund, or dip into your retirement accounts to make a loan you can’t afford.
- How will this affect my relationship with the borrower? Whether you say no to the borrower or go forward and lend the money, either decision is bound to have an impact. It’s not unusual for close relationships to fall apart or become strained over money when things don’t work out. Consider how you’ll handle any fallout with your loved one if you don’t get the money back.
By lending money, you may also be prone to evaluating the borrower’s financial decisions and priorities. For instance, while they may tell you the money will be used for an important financial matter, press for actual details. The last thing you want to find out is the money was used to buy a new 60 inch TV or a gambling trip to Vegas!
Now talk to the borrower
The potential borrower is a loved one, either your friend or family member. If you’re being approached for money, it’s important to be able to discuss the loan honestly (although this may not be an easy conversation to have.)
- Why do you need the money? Although you may put it more delicately, you want to make sure this is a one-time issue like a car breaking down or an unexpected medical bill. You don’t want to feed a poor money management lifestyle if it won’t solve the problem.
- Are there other options? Has the borrower looked into other options? What are they, and why don’t those work? For example, even if their car needs major repairs, maybe they can carpool to work with co-workers, borrow a car temporarily until they can save for repairs, or use mass transportation. While none of these options are ideal, the borrower should show some problem-solving initiative other than simply asking for money.
Another option is to talk with one of LSS’ certified financial counselors to review their financial situation. This may be especially important when it looks like the money crisis is bound to happen again due to poor financial skills.
- What is an affordable payment plan? While the payment amount should be workable for both of you, you should determine a figure that fits the borrower’s budget. A monthly payment may make it easier for the borrower to stay current by getting into the habit of regular installments.
For more convenience to the borrower (and greater certainty for you), consider having the payments automatically withdrawn from a borrower’s bank account.
Write up a loan agreement
These days it is fairly easy to find sample documents online to help you craft your arrangement in writing. So, take a look to see if any of these work for you and simply change them as needed.
On the other hand, the document does not have to be complicated or full of legalese. In fact, the simpler and more straight forward it is, all the better! If there’s ever a problem, you don’t want the borrower claiming they didn’t understand the agreement.
Think about the terms of the agreement such as the loan amount, payment amounts and frequency, repayment duration, the amount of interest being charged, and consequences for missed payments or loan default. If your plan is to be able to prove your loan agreement in court, you want the specifics spelled out.
Consider carefully collection activities
If the borrower starts missing payments, reach out to try to find a workable solution for you both. If unsuccessful, you may have to talk to a lawyer or take the borrower to court. But be sure to ask yourself if trying to collect is worth the time, additional money, and frustration for you. Sometimes it is instances like these that become the best life lessons for us all!
At LSS, we empower people to take control of their debt. Trust me when I say, we understand that overcoming debt is a tough challenge, but we know you can do it.
Our Debt Management Plan (DMP) serves the dual role of helping you repay your debts and helping creditors to receive the money owed to them. A DMP consolidates your monthly bills into one simple payment–often with a lower interest rate–so you can start paying off those debts and return to financial health faster. Give us a call today at 888.577.2227 or visit our website at www.ConquerYourDebt.org to get started!
Author Barb Miller is a Certified Financial Counselor at LSS Financial Counseling and specializes in Bankruptcy Education and Student Loan Counseling.
Our own blogger Barb Miller was asked to contribute to an article called “6 Ways to Help an Adult Child Without Going Broke” for The NextAvenue Blog. Author Richard Eisenberg does a great job explaining that you need to have a candid talk about what you can and can’t do.
Click to read “6 Ways to Help an Adult Child Without Going Broke.”